Why is K-pop so addicting? It’s more than just catchy music—there’s a whole psychological and emotional pull that draws us in. In this video, I’ll dive deep into the reasons why we get hooked on K-pop idols, the parasocial relationships we form with them, and the carefully curated world they live in. From the polished personas to the fantasy they create, I’ll break down how the entertainment industry designs K-pop to be irresistible. Whether you're a casual listener or a hardcore fan, this video will help you understand the magic behind the K-pop world and why it has such a powerful hold on us.
Timestamps: 0:00:00 - My own story, obsession with kpop idols back in the day. From kpop to the dramas to a whole spiral down a dark hole 0:06:00 - What all these is - limerence and romantic obsession for a celebrity/stranger 0:08:25 - The lure of the carefully curated, agency-crafted idol persona. Don't believe all that you see/read/hear, the majority of them isn't true 0:16:55 - How the entertainment industry works and how it creates emotional investments in their fans 0:18:45 - East Asian entertainment industry culture and how the idols/celebs lives are so intertwined with that of the fans that everything they do is for the fans, which creates an unhealthy dynamic and toxic parasocial relationships 0:22:14 - How kpop , kpop idols and our obsession is actually a form of escapism and fantasy 0:24:00 - The role of dopamine and how this pleasure/reward centre keeps you hooked and addicted (very similar to intermittent wins at the blackjack table, and even on social media) 0:25:10 - How to enjoy Kpop in a fun manner without getting too obsessed 0:28:00 - Closing thoughts Thanks for watching and/or listening! :)
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Do you constantly find yourself attracted to emotionally unavailable people? You know, the ones who give you just enough to keep you hooked but never fully commit? In this video, I’ll break down the psychology behind why we’re drawn to these kinds of relationships, including childhood patterns, low self-worth, fear of intimacy, and the addictive chase for validation. I’ll also explain how this dynamic can feel familiar if you’ve experienced emotional distance in the past. Most importantly, I’ll give you actionable steps to break free from the cycle and start attracting emotionally available love. Key takeaways: Whether you’ve struggled with emotionally unavailable partners in the past or you want to understand why you’re stuck in a painful cycle, this video will help you make sense of your patterns and start your journey to healing :)
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Is it possible for limerence to evolve into a healthy, long-term relationship? In this video, I’ll break down the key factors that make a relationship healthy and sustainable—and how limerence often falls short. We’ll explore the uncertainty, emotional highs and lows, and fantasy-driven aspects of limerence, and whether it can ever shift into something grounded in trust, stability, and mutual respect. If you’ve ever wondered if your obsession could lead to a real connection, this episode is for you.
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Why do some people find themselves trapped in limerence—obsessing over someone who may not even return their feelings?
In this episode, I dive into the deeper reasons behind limerence, from the uncertainty that keeps us hooked, to the brain’s addiction to dopamine rewards, to the illusion of control we create when we can’t let go. If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t stop thinking about someone, this episode will break down the psychological and emotional forces at play, and help you understand what’s really going on inside your mind.
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Have you ever found yourself obsessing over someone, constantly thinking about them, and wondering if it’s love? Or maybe you’ve heard the term limerence but aren’t sure what it really means. In this video, I’ll explain what limerence is and how it’s different from love or a simple crush. If you’re feeling stuck in an emotional whirlwind, this could help you understand what’s really going on and how to move forward toward healthier love.
Also I'll touch on the signs of limerence, how it affects your emotional well-being, and what makes it so different from real, grounded love. Plus, I’ll share practical tips on how to recognize if you’re in limerence and what steps you can take to break free from obsessive thinking. If you have questions about limerence or want more personalized advice, drop them in the comments below!
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Are you struggling with limerence—feeling trapped in obsessive thoughts about someone who may not return your feelings? In this video, we dive deep into how Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) can help you break free from the emotional cycle of limerence and take back control of your love life.
I’ll guide you through:
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Are you ready to confront and heal your shadow self—the parts of you that you’ve hidden, rejected, or feel ashamed of? In this video, we’ll explore how Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) can help you embrace and integrate your shadow self for personal growth and transformation.
I’ll take you through:
Your shadow isn’t something to be feared or suppressed; it’s a part of you that can be a source of power and resilience. Learn how to turn your shadow into a strength through SFBT and start living more authentically!
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Are thoughts about your partner’s past relationships eating away at you? Retroactive jealousy can be overwhelming, but there are effective ways to heal. In this video, I explain how Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) can help you move past obsessive jealousy and focus on building trust and peace in your relationship.
This video will cover:
If you’re tired of being controlled by jealousy and want to start living in the present, this video is for you. Learn how SFBT can help you break free from retroactive jealousy and reclaim your emotional freedom :)
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Have you ever wondered why you're stuck in a cycle of obsessive love and can't break free? Limerence can feel all-consuming, but the key to overcoming it might lie in the parts of yourself you’ve been avoiding—your shadow self.
In this video, I'll dive abit deeper into the connection between limerence and shadow work. We'll explore how hidden fears, insecurities, and unacknowledged desires can keep you stuck in limerent obsession. When we ignore or deny our shadow self, we give it more power, making it harder to break free from the grip of limerence. But by acknowledging and working with these hidden parts, you can find the clarity and emotional freedom you’ve been searching for.
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Would love to work together with you!
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